I feel like everybody has a favorite quote. Mine has been “everything happens for a reason” for quite a while now. I always have to remember that obstacles are put into my life to make me a stronger, better person. Sometimes, these obstacles suck…BIG TIME. After being torn down for a bit, I think of all the positives that came out of the situation, or how I can grow from the situation.
I think of this quote when bad things happen, and you should too. When Josh and I started dating, I mentioned my favorite quote, and he responded with “I hate that quote.” He continued and told me how he didn’t understand what reason there could be for his grandpa dying. Bingo! This is one of the HARDEST things to think of a reason for (and there really isn’t a good one).
My grandpa died about two years ago. I got so depressed and there were many nights where I just broke down because I’d realize that he was actually GONE. It hurt…so so much, but there was a positive. I know what you are thinking: “Jamie, there is nothing positive about death!” Okay, well here is what I am talking about. My grandpa was in the hospital off and on for months. Long story short, he ended up in the ICU and my entire family was there: aunts, uncles, cousins. Nobody was missing. We all bonded over the sadness of our coming loss, and laughed over the memories that he left with us. This bond was so incredible and it was just great to see how much my grandpa had united us.
It can be hard to find positives in death, but I did. Now, I just think of how I will one day join my grandpa in heaven. Think of the happy memories, not the sad ones! Once I explained some of this to Josh, he started to love this quote. He even says it to me when he knows I need reminded.
If you have read any of my posts, you may have seen that I had a falling out with my best friend shortly before college. This was hard for me, but it only made my relationship with my boyfriend stronger. I had already thought he was my best friend, but he truly did become my best friend at this moment. He never judges me and always listens with an open heart.
Along with this, having one less tie to my home town helped me to really branch out and meet new friends. I met so many people at college. They helped me to regain trust in people. The best part is that I know I will have them as my friends forever.
One important lesson I learned in college is that there is always someone who has it worse than you. I stopped getting distraught over bad exam scores and just used those scores as motivation to do better. Sometimes it is important to take a moment and think about the people around you. I know college kids who are full-time students AND have multiple jobs. Just when I thought I had it tough as just a full time college student…
Everything and everyone that has come into and out of my life has helped make me the person I am today. I’ve made mistakes…lots of them…but I have learned from them. Everything really does happen for a reason. Lessons have to be learned. A choice has to be made: think positive, or dwell in the past.
I hope you enjoyed my ramblings about my favorite quote. It has always helped me during tough times to be reminded that there is always good in my life, no matter what is happening at the time. I hope it also helps you to get through tough times in the future. What is your favorite quote? What do you think about my favorite quote?